Is there a written set of Christian Family Values to tell us how to walk, talk, look and feel. Of course there is. It's called the Bible, but don't be surprised if the walk, talk look and feel is totally different from the image of the perfect family that you have in your mind!

Picture a "good Christian family" in your mind for a moment. I'm willing to assume that you pictured a Mom and Dad, loading their two children in the car and driving off to church every Sunday morning, evening and Wednesday evening as well. Dad serves communion, the children go to Sunday School and Mom bakes for the bake sell. After church, they dine with the other "good Christian families" or have a pot roast waiting at home. Then, everyone yawns a great big yawn and takes a nap on Sunday afternoon. Their house is squeaky clean, their clothes are wrinkle free and their children are well behaved and happy.

What happens when they close their front door and their church family is no longer around?

What's my point? Be careful who you pattern your life after. Look for real Christian family values, not just an image of the perfect Christian family.

Where Should our Christian Family Values Come From?

I have come to the realization that I may never have the "white picket fence" Christian life that has been branded into my mind. Therefore, I'm free from constantly comparing my life to other Christians and feeling less valuable than they. I now realize that my idea of Christian family values was of the world, not of God. I was on the outside looking in, at what I thought was my goal in my Christian walk.

Christian family values equal God as father.

God desires healthy marriages and Godly offspring for each of us, yet Christian families are suffering through the same issues as non-Christian families: Infidelity, Addictions, Depression, Anxiety and Divorce. The result is not always Godly offspring. Why are we missing the mark?

We are designing our lives based on the word of man and not the word of God. I honestly believe that if we look to Him for our values, we'll have the real "white picket fence."

Consider Mary and Joseph in Designing your Christian Family Values.

In my current study, "Seven Questions for a Pregnant Virgin" I touch on how Mary may have felt when called away from Israel and into Egypt. She probably had an idea in her mind of how she would raise her child, but she had to give up that idea, disregard the world and obey God.

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