Let's Face it, Everyone in a Relationship has Relationship Questions.

I'll be totally honest.  Relationship questions are not my area of expertise.  I have one terribly failed marriage behind me, so I've attended the school of hard knocks.  Read on, though and I'll tell you what I failed to do so that you can do it better!

Get your Relationship Questions Answered Before you Marry.

Divorce is a horrible thing to go through and God hates it.  He hates it because of what it does to your children.  It's a killer for all involved so please, I BEG YOU, get your relationship questions answered up front.  Get it right the first time.

Consult your Bible, not Just your Minister.

Your minister can answer your relationship questions to some degree, and you should go there for help.  But, your minister does not know how you are being treated behind closed doors.  He/she doesn't know how you feel inside: ready for marriage or not.  God does.

Very prayerfully consult your maker.  If you do not feel 100% confident that God brought the person you are involved with into your life, kindly dismiss yourself.  It is perfectly ok to pull the plug on any relationship, right up until you say "I do."  If you don't, say "I don't" and leave the alter with confidence.  Be prepared though, that applies to your partner as well.

But...It's Too Late!

Never.  If you are already in a marriage, very quickly turn it over to God.  Get closer to Him every day, let go of the need to control your spouse, and watch your marriage improve.  If you are unhappy, choose to be happy.  Unhappy people are generally unhappy in their next five marriages as well. 

Your spouse is not responsible for your happiness, you are.  Your spouse is only responsible for treating you as well as they know how.  The best way for them to learn how is what?  Ask God...and obey. 

Turn your focus away from yourselves and your relationship questions.  Turn your focus over to Jesus.  You will find the answers.  Here are some very helpful prayers for you and your family.

Still Single?

Keep it that way until you have given God complete control.  (He doesn't take control, we have to give it to Him.)  Focus on Jesus and be happy, healthy and whole before you get involved.  Two wounded people do not make a good mix.  Get well, before you marry.  AGAIN...I BEG YOU!

Lay all of your relationship questions on the table and work them out prayerfully before tying the knot!  Can't reach an agreement?  Don't tie the knot, silly.

Married 64 Years and Counting

My parents have been married for 64 years.  You can read how my father solved his relationship questions here.  Don't over complicate things!

Domestic Violence

This is one of the relationship questions that has to be asked way too often as far as I'm concerned.  If you are in danger, get out.  You don't have to divorce right away, but you do need to get out.  If you don't know how or where to go, call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit their website.  Do not be ashamed or afraid to tell them everything you are going through.  They will walk you through this and help you come up with a plan to get to safety and get to safety you must!   Please, don't raise your children in turmoil.